Your fantasies tell you what you long for
(and it’s not what you think…)
It can be quite frustrating not knowing what dream about
What your passion is
What you really long for
Am I right?
Being stuck on that feeling of emptiness
feeling like a failure
Not fun
and it drains you of all your energy
So what to do?
In my capacity as a coach I regularly here:
“I don’t what dream of (or long for)…!”
My reply?
“Yes, you do”
‘Cause we all long for something
A new job
New boyfriend / girlfriend
Peace and quit
[insert what you long for]
And we often fantasize about it
Especially if we don’t like our current situation
we can spend hours daydreaming of something better
This is when you want to pay attention!
It is all about the THEME and the FEELINGS in your daydreaming
Lately I noticed a theme in my daydreaming:
I was always important to someone
I helped and guided someone
I always showed up for people when they needed me
Do you see the theme?
(about being someone for someone)
What feelings did I long for?
- Feeling important
- Feeling useful
- Feeling trustworthy
Reality check & action:
- Do I create disse feelings in my life today?
- If not, how can I create these feelings today?
Fact:
- I have people in my life that I am important to
- I actually do help & guide people (you know, the whole coach thing…)
- I do show up for people when they need me
- … but I could show more up for myself (better food for once and more sleep)
So I allowed myself to feel
important
useful
and trustworthy
AND created an action step to make healthy choices
(Like: Only have healthy afternoon snack in the house)
You can do the same
But wait, Louise!
You said, I would find what I dream of and long for?
Yes, I did…
… and what you dream of is the feelings
When you dream of being a smart, tough business woman
It is the feelings you think you will have
when you accomplished it, you dream of
Feelings like poweful, strong, independent, succesful
not so much the title or the job.
I know we are raised to believe otherwise
If you succeed in becoming a smart, tough business woman
AND you didn’t experiences the feelings
you feel like you have failed ‘cause the feelings are missing
If you are the one saying:
“I don’t know what I want to do with my life”
It can be overwhelming to start looking at The Vision for your life
Not your ego project - but your soul project
(which is to different things … maybe to be viewed in another blog post in the future)
Start with what you long for
and your soul project will reveal itself to you
How to know what you long for
- What do you day dream about?
- What is the theme in your day dream?
- What feelings do the daydreams create?
- Do you create these feelings today?
- If yes, acknowledge them
- If not, how can you create them today?
Remember it is all about creating the feelings
you long for
now - not in the future
‘Cause creating action
creates the feeling now
and gives you the power (back) to your life
Let me know how you start feeling the feelings you long for
Love and light,
Louise Virginia
PS. You can of course also book a coaching session and I can guide you through the steps 😉